How To Survive The Tween Years: Tips And Tricks From A Mom Of Twin Tweens

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Let’s talk tweens. Ah, the joys of this delightful stage of development.

One minute, they’re sweet and cuddly and the next, they’re slamming doors and muttering under their breath. It’s like living with a hormonal rollercoaster, am I right?

As a mother of twin tweens myself, I understand the challenges that come with this stage of development.

I’ve survived more mood swings, attitude problems and eye-rolls than I care to admit, but I’ve come out on the other side (mostly) sane.

And now, I’m here to assure you that this is all normal tween behavior.

Trust me, I know what I’m talking about. I have not one, but TWO tweens in my house.

That’s right, double the eye-rolls, double the attitude and double the fun (depending on how you look at it).

So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed and underprepared, don’t worry. I’ve got your back.

Just sit back, relax and let this mama teach you a thing or two about navigating the murky waters of tweenhood.

In this blog, I will share with you what normal tween behavior looks like, the stages of tween development and how you can get your 12-year-old to listen and behave.

Let’s start with what normal tween behavior looks like.

Tweens are typically between the ages of 10-12 and they are in a stage of transition between childhood and adolescence.

It’s important to remember that tweens are still children, but they are also beginning to experience the physical and emotional changes of adolescence. They may become more self-conscious, more aware of their social status and more interested in romantic relationships.

The stages of tween development are as follows:

• Early Tween Stage (10-11 years old): Tweens at this stage are often still playful and enjoy playing with toys and games. However, they are beginning to become more aware of their bodies and the changes that are happening.
• Middle Tween Stage (12 years old): This is the stage where tweens may become more interested in their appearance, social status and peer relationships. They may also start to question authority and test boundaries.
• Late Tween Stage (13 years old): Tweens at this stage are often more independent and may have a stronger sense of self-identity. They may also begin to experience more complex emotions and thoughts.

Now, onto the big question

How can you get your 12-year-old to listen and behave?

Here are some tips and facts that have worked for me:

1. Set Clear Boundaries: Tweens need clear boundaries and consequences for their actions. Make sure your tween knows what is expected of them and what will happen if they break the rules.
2. Listen To Them: Tweens want to feel heard and understood. Take the time to listen to their concerns and opinions, even if you don’t always agree with them.
3. Stay Calm: Tweens can be emotional and reactive, but it’s important to stay calm and patient. Losing your temper will only escalate the situation.
4. Lead By Example: Your tween is watching your every move. Model the behavior you want to see in them, such as respect, kindness, and responsibility.
5. Encourage Independence: Tweens need to start taking on more responsibility and independence. Give them age-appropriate tasks and let them make some decisions for themselves.

And finally, a word of encouragement.

Parenting tweens can be challenging, but it’s also incredibly rewarding.

Watching your child grow and develop into a confident and independent young adult is a joy like no other.

So, hang in there, fellow parents! You’ve got this!

And remember, laughter is the best medicine when dealing with tweens. So, don’t forget to laugh at their silly jokes, dance to their favorite tunes and enjoy this special time with them.

If you know a fellow parent who is struggling with their tweens, be sure to share this blog with them. And don’t forget to leave a comment down below with your own tips and tricks for dealing with tweens. After all, we’re all in this together!